Are you a full-time mum? A renegade homemaker? A modern housewife? An urban, suburban, rural honest-to-goodness homesteader, or aspiring to be? A real-life Punk-Domestic Goddess?
Have you chosen home over career? Traded your stilettos for slippers?
If so, I’d like to hear from you.
Lots of blogs and books about homesteading and modern homemaking gloss over the often less-than-perfect realities of this lifestyle. I’m curious about how women who choose to stay at home and focus on making a home, whether by being a full-time mum, homesteading, or filling the role of housewife / homemaker actually do it.
I’m not interested in the Pinterest version of our lives. (Although I love Pinterest as much as the next girl.)
I am curious about your thoughts and experiences surrounding:
> The days you find yourself crying over a mound of unwashed cloth diapers, a sink full of dishes . . . spilt milk moments.
> The little voice in your head that says – “I could be an executive director / professional whatever / living a life of leisure / travelling the world / peeing by myself / fill in the blank with whatever your particular fantasy life entails, instead of chasing after kids all day / picking up socks / mucking the barn / canning tomatoes like a mad woman / covered in barf / can’t remember last time I peed in privacy / fill in the blank with whatever your reality looks like.”
> The annoying voices outside your head that say – “You could be an executive director / a professional whatever / living a life of leisure …”
> How you deal with guilt, loneliness, isolation, disappointment and regrets.
> How your friends and family have responded to your choice.
> What moved you to turn your focus homeward.
> Your sources of inspiration, encouragement and practical advice.
> Your advice for young women just embarking on this journey.
> What role, if any, concerns about sustainability, environmentalism, peak oil, food security and self-sufficiency play in your lifestyle.
> How you define success within your lifestyle.
> Your most spectacular failures and greatest triumphs. (By your standards, not someone else’s.)
> The advice, knowledge or skills you wish you had before you set out on your journey.
> The unspoken learning curve. Not the learning-to-bake-bread kind of learning curve. As Calamity Jane of Apron Stringz so eloquently phrased it : “You can’t learn to be organized like you can learn to make yogurt.” THAT learning curve.
> What your day-to-day looks like – in real life, not just the sparkling moments.
> The role and influence of feminism on your chosen lifestyle. Helpful, harmful or indifferent?
> What do you wish other people knew about what you do?
> The tiny quiet moments that fill you up with so much joy they hurt your heart. The moments no one else sees. The reasons you really do this.
If you would like to contribute your story and experiences to a project I’m working on please leave a comment with a link back to your blog, website or contact info or drop me an email so that I can get in touch with you.
- urban homesteading-itis (slowfoodsmama.com)